Issues building react native project in xcode with m1 chip - ios

Question

I am trying to build a react native project in xcode to ipad simulator
but I get this error in xcode
remark: Incremental compilation has been disabled: it is not compatible with whole module optimization
Command CompileSwiftSources failed with a nonzero exit code
I have seen this thread
remark: Incremental compilation has been disabled: it is not compatible with whole module optimization
Have tried everything but nothing is making any difference
The build settings were already set to incremental
I dont see anything useful under Compile swift source files above the error...
It starts out as below, (there is more to it but nothing that is very human readable)
CompileSwiftSources normal arm64 com.apple.xcode.tools.swift.compiler (in target 'ExpoModulesCore' from project 'Pods')
cd /Users/alex/Documents/Projects/AtlasProject/src/frontend/packages/mobile/ios/Pods
export DEVELOPER_DIR\=/Applications/Xcode.app/Contents/Developer
export SDKROOT\=/Applications/Xcode.app/Contents/Developer/Platforms/iPhoneSimulator.platform/Developer/SDKs/iPhoneSimulator15.5.sdk
/Applications/Xcode.app/Contents/Developer/Toolchains/XcodeDefault.xctoolchain/usr/bin/swiftc -incremental -module-name ExpoModulesCore -Onone -whole-module-optimization
If I run yarn ios which I believe runs react-native run-ios I get this error
We ran "xcodebuild" command but it exited with error code 70
I am using:
macOs 12.4
Chip Apple M1 Pro
Xcode 13.4
react-native: 0.67.1
pod 1.11.3
node 15.6.0
ruby 2.6.8p205
I tried downgrading xcode previously which did not help,
And a co worker of mine is capable of creating ipad builds on his m1 mac with xcode 13.4,
unfortunately they do not know why it isnt working on my mac
I am also getting additional errors relating to react-native-webrtc, all of which are basically just file not found